Ladies and Gents,
I am a woman; I was born female; or as Her Ladyship Gaga likes to say “Baby, I was born this way.”
I was born complete, with all of my eggs.
I am a perfect vessel for many things. Fornication, procreation, lactation, IF I SO CHOOSE. All of the biggies that somehow some folks seem to think I don’t understand about myself.
I was made unique from the males of the species. There need be no judgement of this; it is fact, not good, not bad; not right, not wrong. Add an intelligent brain and critical thinking to the fact of my biology and I choose that I am right and I am good. I am not bad nor am I wrong; my body’s design is a perfect amalgamation of centuries of evolution.
When our quadrupedal ancestors stood up and eventually evolved into homo sapiens, the genitalia of the males of the species became vulnerable in a way that they are not in a quadruped. Female genitalia, in a fundamentally different way than in any other mammal, became protected and free from the males’ easy accessibility. Add to this that women have a menstrual, as opposed to an estrous, cycle and you have women’s sexual liberation, built right into our unique human biology. Add that women are [potentially] multi-orgasmic. Add that within a pregnant woman’s body, the absolute time and place of life and death exist. These all make for a potentially POWERFUL FORCE OF NATURE.
I will state it a different way: women are powerful forces of nature due to our biology. What about this? Nature can feel threatening because it can seem out-of-control. Sometimes, this makes people uncomfortable. When we are uncomfortable, our fear response is often triggered. The fear response can take the form of fight, flight, freeze, submit, or any combination/manifestation thereof.
Right now, many are mislead into thinking that the females of the human race are somehow wanting. I say we lack nothing; though, like anyone doing the hard work of being human, we have needs and we need support.
We need support for many reasons, not the least of which is to carry out the hard work of being female in an fearful, unjust, uncomprehending world.
Women have always sought ways to prevent pregnancy. Not always has morality been attached to this seeking.
I am tired of confusion. I am tired of obfuscation. I am weary of the twists and lies, misinformation and rhetoric currently sucking energy away from real issues of wealth disparity, war-mongering, environmental degradation, and the hijacking of our country by corporations and corporate interests. I am tired of Rush Limbaugh, the state of Virginia, the misguided political climate, fundamentalist religions, and corporate greed, to name a few, trying to wrest control and power from me.
I declare that no one can call me a whore or a slut unless I say so. If being a whore or a slut means I like sex, always have and likely always will, then I will gladly call myself these things. If you resort to calling me names, then I call you misguided and I suppose you are probably not having the kind of sex you’d like or as frequently.
I choose to be sexually free. I choose to be in charge of when, how, with whom, and where I have sex, as long as it is consensual, and I declare, just like Billy Holiday, that it ain’t nobody’s business if I do.
Kiss your daughters, kiss your wives. Declare your love and admiration for your mothers and sisters, for women with children and women without children. Kiss the ground we walk on and throw rose petals before our feet. Stop using our names against us. Give credit where credit is due. Remember history before god was declared a man, before doctors stole from midwives, and when mother-worship ruled.
Bow down before the original life and death force.
I am grateful that I was born a woman, motherfuckers.
Twinks, every single word of this post is exactly right.
You pave the way every day, Erin!
Yes! *fist pump*
Thanks, Sue!
Brava, Brava, Brava!!!!
Glad you liked it, JG! I enjoyed your latest post. Very cute. I should leave a comment over there, but I haven’t yet.
No argument here Twink.
Well, thank you. I guess I need some of the Owner’s Manual readers over here to argue with me. Or maybe not. The comment threads over there tend to be much more conducive to arguments. I mean that really–the way the page lays out is an easier format for volleying back and forth than this wordpress layout.
Bravo!
Welcome to twinklysparkles. I’m glad you liked it, Ms Amanda!
Anyone send this to Rush…
Welcome to twinklysparkles, Judy. Rush has become the grain of sand that is creating the pearl, don’t you think? We don’t really need him any more. May he be less than a footnote in 50 years…
Stop by any time. I will pop over to your blog, too. Thanks! twinkly
We may not agree politically, but I can find nothing in your post to argue about.
Welcome to my blog, Joe. I have stopped over to yours via comment threads at EOB’s.
I realize that I didn’t avoid politics or religion, but those 2 topics weren’t actually in the fore of my thoughts when I wrote the post. Most of the words stand aside from politics, I think that is clear. At least I know my female readers are picking up on what I’m laying down in that regard.
I’ll take a peek over at hoosierboy later today.
Thanks for the comment, twinkly
I love how inspiring every statement in this post is.
Greetings, Kassie! I am glad you found the words inspiring. Come back again, I’ll try to keep up (I mean with being inspiring)! twinkly
Cheers on ya. Damn right girl.
Thanks for stopping in, Judy, and thanks for the cheer of support. I will check out your blog soon, twinkly
Apparently, all of the people, institutions, and movements trying to wrest controll and power from you, aren’t very effective? And, you seem to have a lot more supporters than antagonists. Do you really think, though, that the fake war on women, (there isn’t one) is getting in the way of discussion of the other things you care about? The fake wealth gap, for example?
Here’s to having lots of sex when and with whomever you want. I wish the same for myself. (let’s just agree to pay for our own birth control and protection)
Welcome, Bill. I do believe you are a regular commenter at The Owner’s Manual–?
I cannot speak to your opinions, nor has anything you’ve written swayed me from mine.
Generally, women in the US have lived with certain rights and protections that many women in other parts of the world have not. If I feel these rights are being threatened, I will probably have a reaction. If I feel I am being singled out due to my gender, I will have certain feelings about it.
Being self-employed for over 25 years means I have ALWAYS paid 100% of my health insurance. No one is paying for me. Not only that, but the current meme that somehow the American people’s taxes are being used to pay for contraception is patently false. Most people pay for some portion of their health insurance. Employers, in our current system, are required to provide certain benefits to those whom they employ.
Let’s not confuse contraception with hormonal treatments that may provide other benefits to a person’s health; where a person stands on these issues deserves fine-tuning and clarity. Obfuscation serves no one, no matter which side of an issue one is on.
I am glad that you don’t expect anyone to pay for your contraception, but I feel differently when it comes to my relationship with my health insurance company.
Thanks for stopping by and commenting. twinkly
Employers are not required to provide health care insurance for employees. If an empoyer does choose to provide health care, the new Obama edict, requires that it include contraception. So, as an employer, you don’t have to provide health care insurance but, if you do, it must inclulde what the government says it must. Don’t you find this unreasonable?
Bill, I think the governing rules vary depending on number of employees and all sorts of other minutiae that I don’t know the ins-and-outs of.
I do not find the requirement of an employer carrying health insurance unreasonable, but I know it does become crippling for some small companies. I think the requirement starts at 50 employees.
There is nothing new about contraception being required in health insurance policies as far as I know. These rules pre-date Obama.
I want to live in a country where the government has rules and requirements that protect me and my health. I want rules to govern certain aspects of employment. I can tell that we differ on this and I prefer not to debate differences of political opinion with you.
Good Christ. They sure are lightin’ ’em up over here, twinks.
Yup. I’ve had record hits today. Do you think it’s the word “pussy” in the title?
A lot of it came over from the Owner’s Manual and I posted it 2ce on FB which I’ve done in the past, but my gal FB friends seemed to love it.
Thanks again for the shout-out, Erin! I’m loving your book! But we differ on the njoy wand. Ouch!
Man, if all you have to do to drive up traffic is to put “pussy” in the title…well, count me in.
Twinks, I think you’re spot on. You and only you have the right to decide what (and who) you do. If you’re anti-sex, then don’t engage in it. Leave those of us who adore it alone. ‘KTHNXBYE!!!
Welcome, Jack. You are a reader of the Owner’s Manual, right?
Initially, I was aggressive about posting the link on FB and my gal pals LOVED the post so kept passing it around. Actually, not many people use the word “pussy” to find my blog.
I still have a pretty low number of hits. But they are pure, each one earned and built up over the last year. I’m good with honest hits. When I’ve tried to put tags like “DDD boobs” or “ass tattoo,” it doesn’t amount to much and I refuse to get more graphic than that. Not my kinda readers? My Hubby says I need to post about Justin Bieber or Megan Fox. Is that what it takes?
Thanks for stopping by and commenting, twinkly
I’m so glad I read this! :o)
Jillian, I am glad you read it, too. Thanks for stopping by and commenting, twinkly
HELLZ YEAH, SISTER
Aw, thanks, Mme.
I am so glad you said motherfucker before I did 🙂 Of course, that’s not why I liked your post. Silver tongue wordsmithing aside, the passion, eloquence and logical reasoning of your essay rings true. Nice job, Nikki
Welcome, i mayfly! Thanks for stopping here. I love the pun of your blog name. I stopped by your place earlier and I hope to do more. Thanks for the input and the like of this post. It strikes me differently now than when I wrote it (of course). I did love Mme Weebles’ post today. That rocked! Such abundant and appropriate use of the word fuck.
Come back any time! twinkly